You’ve got big ones, small ones, real ones, and fake ones…?
Hi! The worst blogger-ever is back! I have been completely MIA and I am ever so sorry. It is a terrible way to start the new year but..I’m back! I’ve been wanting to share everywhere I’ve been to lately and all the great people I’ve been in touch with since December 30th. Unfortunately, getting everything situated for the upcoming semester has taken all of my time. I have 8 days left before class resumes!! *cringing*.
Anywho, I hope everyone had a fabulous NYE and has started the year with positive vibes. I ended my year perfectly; I was reunited with my high school friends that I hadn’t seen in about 4 years! It honestly felt like no time had passed between us. The gathering was very spontaneous and ended up being such a great time. We initially drove to The Queenstown Public House in Little Italy. To our much disappointment, they did not have a breakfast menu so we left. I decided to take them to Cafe 21, the perfect place to get tipsy off of mimosas and be loud without feeling awkward. This place is always packed. It’s a very hipster-y place with instagramable drinks and food. Cafe 21 is located at “people watch” central, Gaslamp right on 5th avenue, which makes it a perfect place to enjoy a refreshing raspberry mimosa or a prosciutto bloody Mary (uh…if you’re into that) on their front patio. I’m telling you, this place is known for their extravagant cocktails so I recommend you give it a try. My BFF had the prosciutto omelette, another friend a pesto chicken sandwich and they said they loved it. Did I mention their tiramisu pancakes?? I will be trying them next time. We all started with a single mimosa, then a second, then a third, and by 3pm, Happy Hour kicked in. I hadn’t seen my friends in ages so a bottomless champagne outing was deemed mandatory.The fight of delicious mimosas is half off by 3pm, by then, we were all drunk. As soon as I got home I stuffed my face with toast (mom’s alcohol cure-all) and took a cat nap. I sound like such an alchy raving about the drinks but in reality I am a light weight. However, I am not going to apologize for my excitement over bubbly cocktails.
I have been here for brunch a few times and I have yet to find the plates to be stellar. I don’t think most agree with me judging by all the people lining out the door. The food is simply not all-that in my opinion. I had chocolate chip and strawberry pancakes with a kiwi jam. By the time the server got back with my butter, they were cold. The restaurant was not expecting it to be so busy on a Tuesday (a day before NYE) so they ran out of french toasts, ketchup, and coffee mugs. Totally understandable but I had to mention it because my picture was ruined thanks to those paper cups. Overall, Cafe 21 is a great place to hang out with your friends over brunch. Drinks are fabulous, food is picture worthy, the ambiance is fun, and the waiters are very friendly. It’s no surprise why this place is so popular. To me, the company is what made it such a special lunch. I left drunk and with aching abs from laughing so much.
Pardon the bad pic quality
Lipstick stain, oops!
After my reunion and the new year in high gear, I began to analyze my friendships. We tend to distance ourselves from a lot of our college or high school friends as time passes. Usually the people who withstand the test of time during our “transient” years are the ones who have a better chance of staying in our life for good. This is a natural process that I am sure everyone can relate to. As individuals, our interests and views change and sometimes we grow apart from each other based on those or other reasons like school, work, kids, significant others, etc. Basically, life gets in the way and we become picky by who we share our time with. I am also aware that there’s others who can balance it all and are surrounded by tons of good friends. I for one am not that type. I would sometimes get anxiety over the thought of hanging out with “new” people. These were people who I considered my friends but who I did not see on a regular basis like my two BFF’s at the time. I was afraid we wouldn’t have anything to talk about after exchanging niceties (I’m weird, I know). I did not branch out, I always stayed in my comfort zone and ended up hanging out with my two BFF’s. It’s not that I didn’t want to spend time with my other friends; it was my inexplicable shyness that got in the way.
SO, I hate the whole “New Years resolutions” crap. I have never given into the new year new me thing, I’ll start working out, blah blah blah. I feel like if I mention it, I’ll jinx myself from actually accomplishing my goals. I rather take mental notes, reflect on my past, and try to make my life better. Now I’ve taken it upon myself to spend more time this year with the few people I consider my friends. I’ve come to realize that in order to have and keep a friendship, I must take the initiative. I plan to reach out, set a time and date, and then leave the ball on their court. It can go both ways: (1) the “friend” agrees, we meet up, and everything is back to hunky-dory because we have shown each other that we value our friendship or (2) the “friend” makes 101 excuses not to show up (loose ends officially tied). My boyfriend always complains about people in San Diego not keeping their word. He thinks we like to say “let’s catch up!” to friends we haven’t seen in a long time but never follow through. I believe he has us well figured out. I’ve fallen victim to that where I run into someone in person or social media and the last words that come out of my mouth are the latter. I honestly do mean it though! Whatever the reason is for others or for myself, I plan to change my ways with the realization that it takes two to tango, the energy must be reciprocated. Ain’t nobody got time to beg phony friends! LOL. That’s my attempt of growing-up and establishing life-long friendships (a girls needs her bridesmaids, you know). All I am certain about is that friends and friendships should ultimately be effortless and natural. You can’t fake it or force someone to be your friend (unfortunately). Ha-ha, kidding!!
So with all that rambling I want to end by sharing a quote perfectly fit for today’s post and by asking y’all: what defines a true friendship and what do you do to preserve them?
“If they miss you, they’ll call. If they want you, they’ll say it.
If not, they aren’t worth your time”
Pop, fizz, clink!